Motivational Coach (How to Stop Being a People Pleaser)

Opening: This is a Text about mental health of "how to stop being e people pleaser" and is made for training myself to developing my speaking in english

Being someone who pleases people, sounds, on the face of it, like a very good idea, but it s a pattern of behaviour riddled with problems as much for the perpetrator as for their audience.

The people pleaser is someone who might at times be oneself who feels they have no option but to mould themselves to the expectations of others, and yet, harbours all manners of secret and at points dangerous reservations and resentments.

They act like perfect lovers when their real feelings are darker, giving their assent to plans they hate and confusing everyone around them by failing to express their authentic needs and ambitions.

To understand and sympathize with people-pleasers, we need to look at their past experiences, which often involve being around people who seem incapable of accepting and forgiving certain necessary facts about their child. To survive, we needed to be acutely responsive to what others expected us to do and say. We often lie out of fear or love for someone we are deeply attached to but who is vulnerable in some way.

In adulthood, we can find three paths out of these difficult patterns of people-pleasing: reminding ourselves that our colleagues, partners, and friends are likely very different from the people around whom our anxieties dose of unwelcome information or occasional rejection, acknowledging the inadvertently harmful side-effects of our behavior, and acquiring the confidence to be artful about the difficult messages we have to impart. As a child, we couldn't nuance the messages we wanted to send out, as we didn't know how to craft our raw pain and needs.

In conclusion, people-pleasing is a pattern of behavior that can be both beneficial and detrimental to both the perpetrator and their audience. By understanding the origins of people-pleasing and learning to be more open and honest with ourselves, we can better navigate the challenges of people-pleasing and develop the confidence to convey our true needs and desires.

Closing: after i made this video, i notice how my speaking still lack in pronouncing, that i wish i can developing in future

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